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Lead with the truth

Although a profile name “PaleoGirl4You” paired with a snapshot of you gnawing on a T-bone while wearing blue blocking glasses might be overkill in the world of Paleo dating, be forthcoming about your lifestyle choices early in any relationship. Honesty is the best policy, and will make it easier for your date to understand why you won’t be indulging in a supersized cola and mint candy during a movie date.

Peel the onion slowly

The social penetration theory is a process of self-disclosure that proposes the most closeness will develop in relationships that move gradually from shallow levels of communication towards deeper, more intimate ones.¹⁰ Instead of aiming to lure your date in before mentioning your Paleo lifestyle, be yourself and share what’s important to you. However, keep it simple and remember you’ll have time to reveal more details about it as the relationship develops.

Keep an open mind

The Paleo lifestyle implies your dedication to health and is authenticated by the choices you make on a daily basis. Your dates may not yet have had the opportunity to make similar changes. Therefore, it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker if he orders pasta for dinner.

Think outside the box

There are plenty of venues that are Paleo dating-friendly. Do something active like throwing a Frisbee in a park, go paint pottery, or visit tourist attractions in your hometown. You can even still share a delicious meal together, as most restaurants either offer or are flexible to provide dishes that are Paleo, or you can utilize the 85:15 rule during those times.

Despite the trend of dating based on eating style services, chances are your Paleo lifestyle won’t deter someone from falling in love with you especially if you demonstrate a mutual respect for one another’s choices.¹¹ Phew. Embrace your Paleo lifestyle as you “forage” for the right mate. He or she is out there somewhere; evolution has insured that in order to support the longevity of our species.

References

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